Dealing with Disappointment

Today has been one of those days where the sadness of disappointment has all but crippled me. For some context, during the summer my theatre society opened up the position of wardrobe manager for our extensive costume and prop store. Being a massive fan of costumes and cosplay, i was so excited and applied for it straight away. I spent the rest of the summer thinking about it and the way i would organise everything, and just generally being so pumped to potentially get the position.

However today i found out that they gave the role to someone else, and the excitement that i had been building up for 4 months came crashing down around me.

The thing with disappointment is it’s one of those things you’re desperate to get past, and you can see ahead in the future where everything is better, but you can’t quite get there yet. Not to sound like i’m having too much of a pity party, but disappointment is a feeling that i’m all too familiar with (particularly when it comes to the theatre society…not that i’m bitter). While experiencing this emotion sucks, i have learnt some tips to help deal with being disappointed.

  1. Comfort food. When the first wave of disappointment hits, nothing feels better than pity chocolate. Let yourself eat some junk food without feeling guilty about it. In the wise words of Remus Lupin ‘Eat. You’ll feel better.’
  2. Accept whatever has gone wrong and caused you to feel disappointed, and let yourself feel sad about it.
  3. Don’t get crushed under the tsunami of disappointment and sadness. While it’s important to let yourself be sad about things, don’t let it stew in your mind until it’s all you can think about and all of a sudden you find yourself in a nest of duvet covers consumed by all your failures and surrounded by sweet wrappers. Trust me, it’s not a good look.
  4. Don’t think you’re a failure. Whatever has gone wrong in this instance does not encapsulate your value, talents and worth as a person. Taking a step back from the situation to see how this fits into the big picture can be a good thing. Perspective is your friend.
  5. Take all the disappointment you’re feeling and channel it into becoming better. No matter the situation, feeling disappointed should make you want to improve. Didn’t beat your track record? Train harder. Too anxious to talk at the checkout? That’s okay, try again next time. Didn’t get a position of wardrobe manager you wanted? Fine, but you can bet your ass i’m fired up to get sewing and show everyone how amazing the costumes i make are gonna be.

While this is in no way a guaranteed plan to overcome the depressing feeling of disappointment, hopefully someone will be able to take at least one helpful tip from the things that have taken me 20 years to figure out.